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My 37 year-old cut husband absolutely detests the fact his penis is now severely curved and his skin is so tight that it's overly shiny in spots. After sex, those spots tend to get raw and sore and sometimes even bleed. All because his mom decided she preferred a cut penis. I really get frustrated when people act like it's no big deal.
His father is intact with no issues, but his mom thinks circumcised looks better. So she chose to circumcise my husband in 1975. He has never had a good relationship with her, even as a child, and had a lot of unexplained problems with depression and self worth. He now wonders if it's not linked.
When we first had intercourse, the first thing I noticed was his penis curved strongly to the one side. We didn't know that was a side effect of circumcision and just laughed about it. Sex has always been good but it also has been painful. The side of his penis that pulls has shiny skin that is very tight and can be painful for him at times. Sometimes after sex he will even bleed a bit and develop raw spots in that area. I've had intact sex before so I know how wonderful it can be, how it works and how pleasurable it is.
Sex with my husband has been difficult. It's good sex but it has drawbacks (which we now know are directly because of him being circumcised.) We are both so bothered by this that it's hard to even want to have sex now. For him, he has the issues of the rawness and for me, it's the fact that it is dry and not the same as intact movement. Another issue is that we are just now aware of WHY he has this problem, and it serves as a reminder that we are left to deal with his mother's decision for his body. Worst part is: she gets to have sex with an intact man!!
He is just entering the early stages of foreskin restoration and the first day he tried to pull enough skin forward for taping, he couldn't squeeze enough to even move down the shaft. He got so frustrated he threw everything down and cursed his mother. He's been trying slowly and is finally able to get enough to put in the cone, but it's not been easy. There have been plenty of moments where he has been so frustrated over this choice his Mom thought she had the right to make so many years ago. Thirty-seven years later- HER preference means absolutely nothing and we suffer with the side effects.