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by: Darlene Owen

I wouldn't say that I'm fanatical about it or anything, but I do have a very strong opinion about it, and am completely against it. I strongly believe in genital integrity for both, females and males.

I'm talking about circumcision.

I had never given it much thought before, until as a nursing student I actually saw a circumcision performed on a two day old, male infant. After witnessing the procedure, I began to question this very unnecessary procedure, and tried to reason what I can only describe as torture that was carried out on that innocent little baby who had no voice, no one to help him. 

Witnessing that circumcision led me to educate myself as much as I could on the topic, and question a lot of the myths surrounding circumcision, and discover the actual truths.

I grew up like everyone else with the very wrong mis-conception that circumcisions were "no big deal", and were "cleaner, healthier" etc. 

I was in my second year of nursing and looking forward to my clinical rotation in Labour and Delivery since it was the area I was most interested in, and knew most likely would be the career path I would take in nursing.

It was my second day on the unit, when the nurse I was following and observing, informed me that I would be helping her to assist a doctor that morning with a circumcision. 

My nurse and I set up for the procedure and talked about what was to be involved. My nurse made it sound as though it was a very minor procedure and quite simple really.

I went with the nurse to the mom's room that was having her son circumcised that morning. The nurse asked the infants' parents if they had any questions, both parents simply replied, "no". If only they knew what their poor little baby was in for. 

The nurse asked the parents if they wished to be present during the circumcision and watch the procedure performed. Neither parent was interested, so we then headed with the baby in her arms to the "procedure room", which was simply... the nursery.

The nurse unswaddled the calm, sleeping baby, and proceeded to undress him. The baby began to fuss a little since it was a little cold in the room, and I'm sure he didn't appreciate being unwrapped and removed from his warm, cozy blankets.

The nurse then layed the now naked infant down on a hard plastic body board and strapped down his arms and legs. The baby was crying very hard now, trying to fight having his arms and legs strapped down in such a straight unnatural position for a newborn.

The doctor then walked in, and was very friendly when the nurse introduced me and informed him that I was a nursing student who was joining them that morning to observe. While the doctor was talking to me, he seemed impervious to the now screaming infant. I wasn't even really hearing the doctor at that point, all I kept thinking was, 'Someone please unstrap that poor little guy, and pick him up and comfort him already.' The doctor saw my obvious distress and smiled and said, "Oh, don't worry about him, he just doesn't like being on the board, he's in no real distress." 'No real distress'? Really? This tiny little newborn was screaming and no one was responding to his cries. He was literally being ignored. I was not impressed so far.

The doctor then draped the infant in surgical drapes which covered his abdomen and legs but exposed his penis. The doctor using a swab, rubbed a solution on the infants' penis explaining what the solution was, and that it works to cause an erection on the infant so that he can grasp his penis easier. 

The doctor then grabbed the infants now erect penis with forceps and proceeded to force a sharp instrument into the opening of the penis. The infant was of course screaming the most horrid cry I have ever heard come from an infant. The nurse was proceeding to give him sugar water, which she claimed "helped soothe the baby". This little guy seemed as though he could care less and was choking and gagging on the liquid. He just kept screaming. At times his scream didn't even come out, he was screaming so hard. I felt weak in the knees and had to fight very hard to hold back the tears forming in my eyes.

The doctor had forced the sharp scissor-like instrument into the opening of the baby's penis and was now forcing it open to tear away the foreskin from the glans of the penis. He then grasped the skin with another type of forcep and proceeded to cut at the foreskin. The doctor was talking away and explaining each step, I wasn't even listening. I could not believe the unbelievable distress this baby was in, and no one seemed to care really. I then asked the doctor if he had used any freezing or anything. He simply replied, "No, it's too risky to use on little guys like this." WHAT? So, basically this doctor was hacking skin off of this poor little infants' most sensitive organ, and the infant was experiencing every cut? I remember feeling so disgusted and said to the doctor, "This is barbaric." The doctor said, "Well, that's your opinion, but some parents prefer their boys be cut." All I could think of was, 'Why? Who really cares?'

When the doctor was finished the procedure, the nurse took the now exhausted infant and applied Vaseline and gauze to the infants' very raw, bleeding penis. The infant was no longer crying, but had such a look of shock on his little face. He had just experienced the most horrific pain he will probably ever experience in his entire life. 

I was at a loss for words. 

The truth about circumcision is that it is not medically necessary. 

It is not cleaner. 

Studies have proven again and again, that it has no direct relation on cancer etc. as was once thought. 

It is also a very painful procedure. The baby does feel it, experience it. 

There have been studies that demonstrate actual MRI changes within an infants brain after a circumcision has been performed. 

As for those who claim "it looks better", my response is, "Really? Based on who's decision?" A penis with a foreskin is how the penis is supposed to look. The foreskin has a function, it providess protection of the very sensitive glans (head) of the penis, and it provides ease during intercourse. During intercourse, the penis moves within its foreskin, preventing rubbing or friction of the vagina, which makes intercourse far more pleasurable for both the man and woman.

Many people will respond in outrage over female circumcision, yet still consider circumcision of males 'the norm'.

Many parents aren't properly informed of the procedure. It IS a very serious procedure with very many real risks involved. In my experience as a post partum nurse, many parents who were led to believe it was a 'minor' procedure and observed their sons' circumcision, were sickened just as I was at the actual pain and distress it caused their infant. I have had many patients who, after witnessing their first son's circumcision, decided immediately that they would not get any other boys they may have circumcised. Many parents told me that they wished they had known just how painful it would be for their son, that they would not have even considered it if they had known what is actually involved.

As for the argument that many men want their son to look like them, my answer is, Why? It is a stupid argument. Why can't parents simply teach their son that their son's penis is 'normal and healthy', that 'daddy had his normal, healthy functioning skin of his penis removed surgically, unnecessarily'. I also always say to those people, "Really? Well, watch an actual circumcision and see if you still feel that way afterwards." I have yet to see any parent watch a video, or view an actual circumcision procedure, who is not completely against the idea afterwards.

An uncircumcised penis is very easy to keep clean. There is no special care required. The saying goes, "Clean only what is seen". 

As for worrying about the son's foreskin not retracting, and needing a circumcision later in life. That actually only occurs in a very, very small number of males. However, even if the male does need the surgery later in life, he will be put to sleep for the procedure and will not feel it. He will also be managed comfortably with pain medication. A newborn doesn't have any of those benefits. A newborn is awake for it, will feel it, and doesn't receive any pain medication.

Ask any grown male if he'd get his penis circumcised while awake, with no freezing, and I guarantee you'd hear a very loud resounding "NO!" Yet, many men will put their newborn son through it. Doesn't make much sense does it?

I realize that at one time it was considered the norm. Now however, with all of the education about it, I can not understand why parents still proceed to put their tiny little newborn son through such a horrific experience.

I am proud to say that I am an intactivist, and the proud mom of two gorgeous, healthy, intact boys.


Original article can be found here.
 


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Joseph4GI
11/12/2010 5:00pm

I just love it how the doctors try to wash their hands of the mutilation they are consciously performing on a screaming child, by immediately putting the onus on the parents.

As if it's the parents' job to know better than the doctor whether or not a procedure is medically necessary. How is it that parents, most of whom never went to med school, are suddenly supposed to be more enlightened about circumcision than the doctor who is performing it?

Here is the bottom line:

Before any medical procedure, a doctor has to have a valid medical indication. If there is an actual problem with the penis, and in most cases there is NOT, doctors are supposed to have tried other means, and surgery is the only last resort.

Making profit from performing non-medical procedures on non-consenting individuals constitutes medical fraud.

Without any medical indication whatsoever, then, how is it doctors are performing circumcisions in healthy newborns, let alone be giving parents any kind of "choice" in the matter?

If performing non-medical surgery on a non-consenting individual constitutes medical fraud, what is it called when a doctor takes advantage of naive parents for their permission to perform non-medical surgery on their son?

In my opinion it crosses over from medical fraud, to deliberate professional abuse. Because it involves a healthy, non-consenting child, it is also child abuse. And since he is deliberately causing an erection in a small, non-consenting child, dare I say child sexual abuse.

Circumcision needs to be exposed for the child abuse that it is. Circumcision is none other than child rape, and yes, doctors that continue to make profit from the circumcision of infants are serial child rapists in the business of mutilating children.

The circumcision of healthy, non-consenting infants must stop. Female circumcision of ANY kind, even the most mildest forms that can be compared to male circumcision, is all banned under federal law. If the 14th ammendment stands for anything, the circumcision of baby boys should already be illegal under the equal protection of the law.

May one day male children enjoy the same protection of the law as female children in this country.

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11/12/2010 8:03pm

I saw a circumcision in nursing school 30 years ago, and thought it was barbaric. It was that experience that convinced me I would never do that to my own sons. If more parents were able to see a circumcision before making their decision, a whole lot fewer would ever agree to it. The complacence of most medical professionals about this is sickening. But most of them aren't taught anything about the value of the intact penis, nor anything about the ethical issues. They're just taught, this is something we as health professional do, the parents want it, we're providing a service. When more health professionals stand up and say "THis is a violation of medical ethics and human rights, and I will not participate in it" then circumcision will be on its way out.

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Pseudobliss
11/12/2010 9:14pm

I objected to this rotation in nursing school. I was called the the office of the department head. She told me some "faculty" has strong opinions for circs and I needed to be sensitive to their culture. I told her not a single faculty member in her department had a penis and, therefore, I could care less what they thought about my Intactivism. They'd have to grin and shut it. If they expected to support the work of their "SANE" projects, they would need to understand their procirc stance was, essentially, endorsing sexual battery the same. I wasn't going to be swayed. I went into a circ voluntarily the next week and ripped the MD infront of several RNs. I graduated the following semester and passed boards the same. Nuff said...

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Joseph4GI
11/13/2010 4:33am

@Pseudobliss

What I don't get is how parents are supposed be making an "informed decision" if they're getting information from faculty who have "strong opinions for circs."

Why is it we can openly rip on female circumcision, even the most mildest forms which are comparable to male circumcision, without any regard for the "strong opinions" of practitioners that perform them and the parents who want them?

Why is it we have to be "sensitive" to cultures that circumcise boys, but not girls? And since when are medical professionals expected to perform non-medical mutilative rituals to appease people with "strong opinions," instead of to respond to medical necessity?

Props to you, Pseudobliss, for having the guts to stand up to insanity. If only other medical students with morals would have the same pluck and courage to make a conscientious decision to REFUSE to learn this non-medicine.

WHY are our doctors learning to deliberately violate the Hippocratic Oath: First Do No Harm?

Why aren't they learning anything about correct male anatomy and the value of the foreskin? Why is the only thing they learn in med school about the foreskin how to cut it off?

How is it doctors are so authoritative about most anything else, but when it comes to circumcision, suddenly "it's the parent's choice?" What if parents want their daughter circumcised?

"Oh but it's not the same; female circumcision is much, much worse, etc., etc., and so on and so on..."

Mention female circumcision, and suddenly you get this long list of "reasons" of why "it's not the same," etc. etc. Some of them might even hold water...

...but then, resorting to other alibis only goes to show you that reasons of "tradition," "culture," and "parental choice" simply don't hold any water.

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Doulalee and Nature's Way Birthing Services.
11/13/2010 7:49am

I have made many comments, and talked til I'm blue in the face about the horrors of genital mutilation. I have only one request for new and or expecting parents.....watch a circumcision being done on video.

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tara
11/13/2010 11:54am

I agree that not numbing the baby is barbaric and cruel but I've also assisted in many circs that the baby doesn't wimper. We numb with lido or emla, give the baby tylenol and instead of strapping the arms down we keep the upper body swaddled. As a nurse I couldn't imagine anybody ignoring the baby - we stay very attentive and provide tactile comfort and sweet-ease. I would never pass judgement on a family who does or does not want their baby circ'd. I have 2 sons who are circumcised and neither are traumatized from the procedure. I had 2 totally natural births in a hospital but I opted to circ and would do it again if I had another boy. I'm sure I'm going to be berated for this post but we're all entitled to our opinions

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11/13/2010 12:52pm

Tara you are not entitled to forcibly amputate a primary erogenous zone from a helpless child.. For heaven's sake, how come you can't get this basic moral point? It's not your penis - any more than your daughter's vulva is your husbands to damage as he or you wish...

Or are you going to tell us next that a Shafi'i Muslim has the right to have his daughter's clitoral foreskin cut ? This is one of the most common female circumcisions globally, and the same points about cleanliness are made - after all a female gets 10 times more smegma...

Wake up and smell the coffee, Americans don't own other people whether those people be black, white, male female 1 day old or 100 years old. People get angry with you because you're trying to defend the indefensible.

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11/13/2010 2:58pm

@Tara, you are entitled to your opinion. But, your sons are entitled to keep their healthy bodies whole. To circumcise a baby boy is to show disrespect for the person that is your son.

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Joseph4GI
11/13/2010 7:08pm

@Tara

Right. Numbing the baby makes it "better." Would you agree to female circumcision if baby girls were "numbed?"

Or is pain and whether it's remembered or not, not the actual issue?

Bottom line; when deliberate mutilation is done to a child, it doesn't matter that it is done with pain killers, or that the child doesn't remember.

"As a nurse I couldn't imagine anybody ignoring the baby - we stay very attentive and provide tactile comfort and sweet-ease."

But ignoring the baby is precisely what you are doing when you are circumcising him. How is this going right past you? Ask yourself, if you stayed "attentive" and provided "comfort and ease" to a baby girl, would that make cutting out her labia and/or clitoris "better?"

"I would never pass judgement on a family who does or does not want their baby circ'd."

Would you "pass judgement" on a family that circumcised their daughter?

"I have 2 sons who are circumcised and neither are traumatized from the procedure."

Again, is the fact that they might not "remember" really make it that much better?

"I had 2 totally natural births in a hospital but I opted to circ and would do it again if I had another boy."

'Fraid those births became completely UN-natural the minute you agreed to have your boys circumcised. Circumcision is not natural. The circumcised penis is an artificial, contrived, invented phenomenon.

"I'm sure I'm going to be berated for this post but we're all entitled to our opinions."

You are mistaken if you think that you are going to flaunt the fact that you had your boys mutilated and that you would go ahead with another.

I'm sure you have your "opinions" on male infant circumcision, but since when does a doctor perform surgery based on "opinion" and not medical necessity?

What other non-medical surgery is a doctor obliged to perform on your child based no your "opinion?"

Bottom line is, without medical indication, a doctor cannot be performing circumcisions in healthy, non-consenting individuals, let alone listen to what your "opinions" are.

Doctors that circumcise and nurses that assist in circumcision are engaging in damage, harm, mutilation and child abuse.

This is no "opinion." This is fact.

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Darlene
11/13/2010 8:48pm

Tara, when an infant is quiet and not whimpering, it is not because the infant is not feeling the procedure.

What has actually happened, is that the infant has shut down emotionally and gone into shock.

I don't believe swaddling decreases the horrific pain and trauma that the infant feels.

I'm curious if your husband would agree to being "swaddled" and only given Emla and some Tylenol for a circumcision of his penis if he had to have the procedure? Most likey not.

He'd probably want to be completely sedated and feel nothing, and then he would want some really good pain med for when he awoke from the procedure.

I can't understand why you believe it should be your decision for something that is not medically indicated.

Shouldn't that decision be the child's when they grow up? I agree that you are the parent, but that does not make it okay ethically to remove a normal, perfectly functioning part of your son's sex organ.

Would you circumcise a girl if you have one? Why not? It's "cleaner", "looks better" and afterall, it is YOUR child right?

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Darlene
11/13/2010 8:50pm

...and yes, I'm the one that wrote the article.










































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RD
11/13/2010 9:00pm

@Darelene Owen: you are a normal human being with a healthy capacity for empathy. What you and I don't understand is how tens of thousands of American obgyns have, over the past 120 years, allowed themselves to become inhuman.

@pseudobliss: you are one tough woman. There is something about circumcision that turns some women into Xena Warrior Princesses. I am deeply relieved that we are on the same side. If we weren't, I think you could shatter me.

@tara: Even if routine neonatal circ could be made painless, it would still be wrong, because a percentage of circumcised babies grow up to have damaged penises and impaired sexual functioning. American research has not been honest about the sexual downside of routine circ.

Let me put it very simply: a moving foreskin helps make vaginal intercourse a gentler experience. Also, if your husband is intact and you want sex with him and his pants are off, simply gently play with his foreskin. He will then rise to the occasion and nature will take its course. No need to use your mouth.

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02/16/2011 9:39pm

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03/21/2011 1:38am

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Sue
02/29/2012 9:46am

I would like to know WHAT exactly are they teaching nursing students in regards to intact penis care (midwest, USA) ?? My friend is in nursing school and she posted this on her facebook status today;
"Who would of thought there would be so many extra steps in learning how to clean an uncircumcised penis. The glory of nursing school. "

So now I am wondering WHAT in the world they are telling our future nurses?? (I would ask her BUT she has 4 circ'd sons, so she is all-for circ, and gets rather defensive about it)

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