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A list of 50 important reasons why you should leave your son's penis alone.
 
Written by: ErinKate23
(Read the original article here)
Posted with Permission from Author

I know, talking about baby penises seems like a strange choice for a blog post.  I used to think that penises came in two varieties, circumcised and uncircumcised....but education is a powerful thing.  Now, I know that they only come in one style - Natural - and we, as parents, choose to alter what God or Nature or Evolution or The Great Spaghetti Monster created. 

Why am I calling "uncircumcised" penises "natural"?  Most of the "intactivist" culture uses the word "Intact", which is also accurate, but really, an uncircumcised penis is exactly that - natural.  

Just like women without breast implants have "natural" boobs, or a person has their "natural" nose before a nose job.   It's the way nature made it - therefore, a natural penis.  Does that mean a circumcised penis is unnatural?  Yes, it does.   

I do want to note that I'm not anti-circumcision.  If an adult man wants to modify his body, that is his choice and I support it - just as I would support a woman who wanted labiaplasty, or anyone who wanted to stretch their earlobes or tattoo their body.  I am opposed to the routine circumcision of infants for non-medical reasons.

So, here are 50 reasons to leave your son's penis alone and not let a doctor cut it up.

1.) It's his.

2.) I've never met a man who wanted "less" penis when he was old enough to care.  Men tend to like their penises just the way they are.

3.) You can change your mind.  It's not possible to "un-circumcise", although there are men who have chosen to restore their foreskin later in life.  If you're not sure, don't decide at all.   It's a non-decision.  :)

4.) There is no medical reason to do it routinely. 

5.) Circumcision isn't the majority for newborns anymore.  According to theNew York Times, the infant circumcision rate is down to 32%.  That means 68% of your son's locker room will likely have natural penises.  If you circumcise, he will probably ask you why he's different from his buddies.

6.) Natural penises are easier to take care of during the diaper-changing years.  Just wipe it like a finger.  No retracting, no mess or fuss.  Compare that to having to care for an open wound in a diaper.

7.) You wouldn't cut your baby girl's genitals.  In fact, it's illegal - even a "nick" is illegal.  Male circumcision is a lot more involved than a nick!

8.) Many doctors and nurses refuse to perform the procedure because it violates the Hippocratic Oath - First, Do No Harm.

9.) It hurts.  A lot.  Really.  Don't believe me?  Watch a video.  With the sound up, please.  If you can't watch the whole thing, can you really ask your newborn to go through it?

10.) Babies can't be properly anesthetized.  An older child or adult would begiven anesthesia and strong pain medication after any kind of operation, especially one on their genitals.  Babies can't have proper pain medication.

11.) Did you know?  Infant circumcision rates are less than 10% in the following counties: England, France, Portugal, Italy, Ireland, Canada, Mexico, all of South and Central America, Japan, China, Russia, Sweden, Norway, Denmark, Luxembourg, Switzerland, Estonia, Latvia, Lithuania, Hungary, Greece, Taiwan, Vietnam, India, Sri Lanka, New Zealand, Australia and more. 

Infant circumcision rates are higher than 10% in the following countries: USA, Israel, Bangladesh, Pakistan, Afghanistan, Bahrain, Kuwait, Syria, Lebanon,  Yemen, Qatar, Turkey, Jordan, Philippines, Indonesia, Nigeria, Cameroon, Chad, Republic of Congo, Eritrea, and Kenya.  

12.) Men with natural penises are less likely to experience Erectile Dysfunction as they age.  Translation - your son will be less likely to need Viagra when he's 55.

13.) Female sexual partners of men with natural penises are more likely to achieve orgasm during sexual intercourse.  They are also less likely to need lubricant.

14.) There are over 20,000 nerve endings in the foreskin.  That's more than in the female clitoris. 

15.) The foreskin protects the head of the penis.

16.) The foreskin provides lubrication during sexual intercourse.  Men with natural penises are less likely to use lubrication during sex or masturbation (hey, THAT's why my brothers were always stealing my conditioner! Mom would have saved a fortune on bathroom supplies by leaving them natural...)

17.) No major medical organization on earth recommends routine circumcision of infants.

18.) It's easy to clean when he's older.  Shower.   Besides, by the time his foreskin is retractable, (average age, 10.4 years old), you will no longer be cleaning his penis.  I hope.

19.) Circumcision does not prevent AIDS, or any other STD. Condoms do.  Having sex with one, monogamous partner and avoiding IV drug use prevents AIDS.  Why would you assume your baby's going to be a man-whore anyway?

20.) We don't chop off ears to prevent ear infections.  We don't remove baby toenails to prevent fungal infections.  We don't cut off legs anymore when a wound becomes infected.  In the very unlikely event your son does develop an infection, we have antibiotics.  

21.) Circumcision in the US began as a method to discourage masturbation, advocated by Kellogg, the cereal magnate, who also believed in the importance of daily cold enemas.  Really - true story!! He stressed that circumcision should be done without anesthesia so boys would remember the pain every time they wanted to masturbate.   How'd that work out?

22.)  Natural penises only "look funny" to you if they are unfamiliar to you.  Your son's generation will see them as normal.

23.) Women produce far more smegma than men, but we don't cut off their baby girl labia to keep things "clean."

24.) Your son will respect you for leaving the decision up to him, and for respecting his right to genital integrity.

25.) Complications of circumcision are NOT rare. Check out this thread on Babycenter.com (a mommy board, not a circumcision website) to read their stories.

26.) Most hospital circumcisions are performed by Obstetricians and Gynecologists, whose specialty is female reproduction, not male.

27.) Circumcision is not usually performed in a sterile operating room, but in a dirty nursery or a side room in hospitals without nurseries.

28.) Circumcision makes money for doctors.  A doctor who performs circumcisions makes an extra $20,000-160,000 per year on the operations.  That's why they offer circumcision at hospitals - for cash.  They'll ask you if you want your son circumcised multiple times at the hospital: they want the money.

29.) Less than 1% of intact men will ever "need" to be circumcised, just as the vast majority of women will never need a hysterectomy or mastectomy.

30.) Penile cancer causes 300 deaths a year, almost exclusively in men over the age of 70.  Infant circumcision causes over 500 deaths a yearworldwide.  Circumcision does not prevent penile cancer.

31.) Babies with natural penises are more likely to breastfeed successfully.  Infant circumcision interferes with breastfeeding and hinders breastfeeding success.  Isn't breastfeeding hard enough?

32.) Fathers don't spend time comparing penises with their sons.  If your son does notice that his penis is different from Dad's (other than size and hair), you can simply explain that Daddy had an operation when he was a baby.  My dad lost half of his ring finger in an accident, but I was never bothered by having all of my fingers.

33.) Your grandfather (or great-grandfather) probably wasn't circumcised, unless you are of Jewish or Muslim descent.  It's a relatively new thing in the USA.

34.) Most circumcised penises have scars.  If you've ever seen a circumcised penis, you have probably seen circumcision scars and didn't know what they were.  Curious?  Click here for pictures (adult eyes please, extremely graphic).

35.) When erect, natural penises don't look very different from circumcised ones (adult eyes please)

36.) Babies have died following complications of circumcision.

37.) Babies have had the glans (head) of their penis accidentally amputated during circumcision.

38.) Female circumcision was legal in the United States until 1996.  It was practiced in the USA as recently as the 1979 to prevent masturbation.

39.) Your health insurance may not cover the procedure.  Medicaid does not cover it in 16 states, and many major insurance companies also do not reimburse for the surgery, since it is cosmetic.  If your insurance doesn't cover it, it probably also does not cover any complications.

40.) Babies are strapped down on a circumstraint to have the procedure done.  That is the most unnatural, terrifying position for a baby, who previously was all curled up and safe inside Mama's body.

41.)  If you believe in evolution, why are men born with foreskins?  If you believe in God, why did he give men foreskins?  Did they screw up?

42.) If you are Christian, your religion actually *forbids* circumcision.  Your son's body is a temple, and Jesus was the sacrifice to end all sacrifices - including the foreskin.  See this link for more info.

43.) If you are Jewish, you should know that there is considerable debate about the religious necessity of circumcision.  

44.) If you do believe that your religion requires the sacrifice of the foreskin, your son can choose to sacrifice his foreskin in the name of religion when he is old enough to make the decision himself.

45.) The foreskin is fused to the head of an infant's penis, just like your fingernail is fused to your finger.  Have you ever pulled back your fingernail all the way?  Owwwwwwwwwwwww.

46.) Circumcision makes penises smaller.  Who wants a smaller penis?

47.) "My partner should make the decision, he has a penis/she looks at penises" is a dumb reason to abdicate responsibility for a decision.  You are your baby's parent, penis or not, and you have a responsibility to protect your child from harm.  Victims of FGM (aka female circumcision) are the most vocal supporters and perpetrators of the abuse.  Call on your inner Mama or Papa-bear and stand up for your baby's rights.  Make your partner watch a video with the sound on and convince YOU why they want this done to their precious child. 

48.) You have seen an uncircumcised penis, and you probably didn't even notice.  Take a look below at the (safe for kids) picture!

49.) He'll be in good company.  Check out this (in my opinion, mouth-watering) gallery of famous intact men!  From Elvis, James Dean, Will Smith, Leonardo DiCaprio, Jude Law and sooo many others.

50.) It's his.  I know, I said it already. but it's really the first and last reason - and perhaps the only one you really need.  It's his body, and unless medically necessary, it should be his choice.  You wouldn't give him a nose job without his permission, you wouldn't tattoo your infant.  This is the same thing.  If you really look at your motives, why would you want to take the risks?  Leave the decision where it belongs - in your son's hands.

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09/04/2011 09:46

Love it!!!!!!

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Deborah
01/05/2012 15:21

worth reading .......

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Anje
09/09/2011 03:09

This is great!! Should be required reading for anyone expecting a boy!

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TARA
09/10/2011 15:43

Thanks for the article!!

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Erica
09/27/2011 07:52

Very well written!! Going to bookmark this one!

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Aimee
09/27/2011 19:03

I reposted this on my FB. I have a cousin who is expecting a boy and says he will be circumcised. Hopefully she will read this and reconsider.

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Alexis
10/22/2011 18:54

I wish I would have had this information before we circumsized our boys...I feel horrible.

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Alexis
10/22/2011 18:55

I meant circumcised...

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11/26/2011 11:36

Excellent, well thought-out list. I've bookmarked this for future use. It will be required reading for any future parents in my life.

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11/26/2011 16:18

Wonderful. Thanks! Alexis, it's sad, but you can't blame yourself. We do the best with what we know, and no one gave you the proper info. Now that you know better, make sure your boys do too, when they're old enough to have kids!

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Dan
11/27/2011 11:19

Who gives a shit really ? Guys don't care , women shouldn't either

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Naji
11/29/2011 10:36

Dan, a lot of guys DO care..and everyone should. Babies DIE from this procedure. I think the parents of those babies care.

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Sarah Becker
11/29/2011 12:00

Wonderful, wonderful info, thanks for sharing!
I tried to watch the video, so I could tell people I've seen how bad it is when I'm sharing info, and I just couldn't. I started crying when I saw him being strapped down. What a horrible, horrible thing.

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Athena
12/03/2011 10:14

I was taught it was Biblical and my obgyn used a numbing cream and my son barely cried. My husband and I witness it. I'm sad to hear of someone else bad experience,but I believe we made the right decision.

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Alizah
03/26/2012 18:22

Athena um with you. My Catholic father was circumsized and my Jewish husband is. My ex was not and was "uncut" and the orgasm "fact" is utter BS in my experience. A LOT of Christians are/were circumsised for religious beliefs and all mohel who perform Bris have to use medical procedures and tools. This article has fallacies. Dont do it if you find it distasteful but don't smear others because of it.

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Nicole
03/27/2012 05:45

It doesn't say it guarantees you an orgasm. That has a lot to do with your own anatomy and a very large percentage of women will never achieve orgasm regardless of what kind of stimulation they receive.

Also stated above was not doing something because other people you know are doing it, which people agree with on other accounts, so why not this?

Also if this feels like a smear, it's because of your feelings about your decision. This is not a smear campaign and it is very politely written to appeal to all sides of the debate. It is just factual information and if you find it offensive, perhaps it is because you did not do the research yourself before making a choice.

denise
12/05/2011 20:55

Really wish I read this before we circumcised our son. I'm feeling kinda guilty right now. Especially since he had problems with his procedure

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Nikita
01/09/2012 07:19

@Dan, have you ever had sex with an intact man? Trust me, it's much, much more satisfying.

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Wendy
01/14/2012 09:12

@Athena- actually, it is discouraged in the New Testament. Here is just one example: Romans 4:10 "How then was this faith reckoned to Abraham? Not while circumcised, but while uncircumcised. He received the symbol of circumcision. . . that he might be the father of all who believe without circumcision. . . who follow in the steps of our father Abraham which were in his uncircumcision."

Did the doctor wait 30 minutes after applying the creme for it to take full effect? Probably not. I've heard doctors say that the anaesthetic is used just to appease the parents, that it doesn't actually work. Many babies pass out during the procedure because of the pain and shock that it causes.

You can't get around the fact that it is HIS penis, and should be HIS decision when he's of the age of reason.

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Nancy
01/24/2012 18:12

I use this article in my page all the time, I love it.

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Amanda
03/26/2012 11:59

Thankfully, I had information and kept my son the way he was born. I'm keeping this article for future use.
Thank you for putting it together.

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lo
03/26/2012 20:49

you need to check your facts...i.e. talk with an actual doctor not the internet. and the reason it's down is because insurance doesn't pay for it..and people don't have the money to pay for it. and Wendy....that is not what they are talking about in that verse, it was about telling Abram that he was not infertile because he hadn't gotten circumcised, which they believed. If a man wasn't circumcised back then, he was thought to be infertile. okie dokie, don't mean to offend, but just get things straight before you go and influence all these people. out of respect for Them.

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leanna
03/27/2012 07:45

I am expecting my third child not sure what it is yet but if it is a boy we will not be getting a circumcision. My husband is not circumcised and our son will not be either.

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elo1221
03/27/2012 08:50

I hate it when people compare male circumcision to female castration. THERE IS A HUGE difference. Men are still able to have sex and enjoy it very much when they are circumcised. Women are just hurt. Women experience pain the rest of their lives. It is not comparable and illegal for a good reason. There is also good reason circumcision is legal. The 1% who get infections and had to be circumcised at a later age probably wish it had been done as a baby so they would remember that. When I was doing my clinicals for nursing men came in on a daily basis for circumcision. I respect decision to not get circumcised but stop comparing circumcision to castration please and like it was mentioned before, get good MEDICAL facts not something that activists are trying to "convince" you of. I do not regret my decision to circumcise both of my boys. Also, it was my circumcised husbands decision who is happy he was circumcised when newborn

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Missy
06/18/2013 14:08

Female castration? Her is a FACT for you - very, VERY few female circumcisions involve full removal of the clitoris. There are 4 types of female circumcision including: removal of the clitoral hood, ritual nick or partial removal of the clitoris, full removal of the clitoris, and "other" (such as sewing part of the vaginal opening closed). Most women who have undergone female circumcision can still have orgasms and enjoy sex. FACT: There is NOT a huge difference in FGM and MGM. Genital cutting is genital cutting. The part removed during MGM has 20,000 fine-touch nerve endings. The clitoris has 8,000. Forcing ANYONE to have their genitalia sliced and diced without their consent and for NO immediate medical necessity is: Mutilation, unlawful, a violation of human rights and JUST PLAIN SICK! Plenty of men who have undergone RIC have nothing but pain from puberty until death. A baby is more likely to die due to RIC (1/11,000) than to actually ever actually MEDICALLY need a circumcision (1/16,667). The MEDICAL community is the only reason so many men need to be circumcised later in life because the general population does not understand intact care (they tell parents to forcefully retract the foreskin, they diagnose phimosis, etc). Enough FACTS for you?

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Xime
03/27/2012 09:36

This is a blog, if someone chooses to get reliable information off of this, it is their responsibility to deal with the consequences. This is someone's opinion. Do not go off and tell someone their opinion is wrong, because it will turn into an endless battle. If you believe in circumcision you must have your reasons just like the people who DON'T have theirs. Unless this is published on a medical website and listed as a medial fact by a doctor, people shouldn't be taking medical advice from it, just like PEOPLE, shouldn't be talking trash to the author for stating her believes! If you do not have the education to know the difference between an opinion and a fact, you shouldn't be talking out of your butt and putting people down for what they think!

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Xime
03/27/2012 09:38

The point is...if it bothers you then publish your own article instead of disrespecting others!

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Heather
03/29/2012 14:33

I know it is hard to realize that you permanently removed a healthy, functional, normal body part from your child based on false information, but that is what circumcision does. There are no medical benefits especially when you do factor in the risks of the procedure and the benefits of having a foreskin. It is there for a purpose and is not a birth defect. Men who were circumcised as infants do not have any basis in making this decision for their sons. They have no idea what they are missing. Circumcision in on the decline in the U.S. and for very good reasons such as those listed in this blog.

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MsT
06/10/2012 23:40

Brilliant article. Thank you so much for collating this information. I am not sure how anyone can argue with the facts here. This is not opinion. Didn't everyone see the pictures of scarred penises or watch the video (I couldn't - I'm too much of a wimp. But then again, I don't have kids, never will, and don't need to convince myself not to mutilate them). I think it's strange that it seems to be mostly women speaking out in favour of it and accusing the author of bias/misinformation. I do understand that it must be horrifying to discover that you hurt your precious child by allowing them to be circumcised. Personally, I would hope you could be protected from the guilt and anguish you might feel. But if people are too concerned with protecting you, so don't spread the information, other innocent children will be hurt or worse.It doesn't do any good to feel guilty. You did what you truly thought was the right thing at the time. Nobody is criticising you for that. After all, this site is proof positive that there is a desperate need to get this information out there to everyone. At least if you chose to do it now, you will be fully aware of the risks...and I guess prepared to let your child live with the consequences.

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07/31/2012 06:50

You truly are awesome, i agree with you there! I'm so agai8nst circumcision on infants and i'm sick of it. Also, some parents try circumsizing their kids because they "want what's best for their baby." or "I worry he'll be teased." Which makes me so infuriated. That isn't best for babies and your kid will be teased and bullied for millions of reasons, not that any kid should ever be bullied or teased.

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Beans25
11/21/2012 17:16

notice all of the people against this article have circumcised their sons...they are in denial for removing a perfectly functioning part of their sons genitals :-( the first step in the grieving process is denial...

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Karisha
01/26/2013 16:17

Curious if those who support, not circumcising your son, pierce their daughters ears?

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